by Dr. James PerkinsIn 2012, the highly popular Taylor Swift’s work “I Knew You Were Trouble” came like a flood. Multitudes love her mega-successful song, because we identify with it. All of us realize that life brings:
“trouble, trouble, trouble.”

People face all kinds of trouble today. Living includes trouble at work, school, relationships, traffic, weariness, government, world, etc.

Trouble becomes so commonplace, that we make trouble even when none exists. Mark Twain understood this, when we wrote  “I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened.”

Ground zero for trouble often emerges in marriage and family. The close proximity of living together means we may rub each other wrong. We feel the inner pain described in the old spiritual, “Nobody knows the trouble I’ve seen.”

Have you ever heard this statement, “Don’t let your heart be troubled?” Jesus spoke these words. Consider how to guard your heart by following the 5 Ways to Deal with Troubles (especially in marriage and family):

H – Heal your heart by turning to Jesus in prayer and reading God’s Word. Go to Matthew 11:28 and read the good news. Christ said, “Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28). He gives assurance that you can exchange your wearisome and weighty load for peace.

– Empty your heaviness by surrendering all your troubles over to Jesus. List every difficulty you face and, out loud, tell Christ to take each one. Learn to lean on Him during your difficult times. He invites to you enter His classroom and be taught of Him. “Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me” (11:29a).

A – Allow Jesus to love you. Let His heart of compassion restore you. He tells us “for I am gentle and humble in heart” (11:29b).  When Christ’s heart melts into your heart, then your troubled heart will enjoy His triumphant love over what troubles you.

R – Receive and believe Christ and enter His rest. Jesus promises, “You will find rest for your souls” (Matthew 11: 29c). Your soul relates to mind, emotions, and will. Give these to Him. Though all people may deceive you, Christ never lies. He is the truth and what He proclaims He provides. When troubles come like a flood, float on the turbulent waters with confidence that you cruise in peace.

T – Turn over all troubles to God and leave them there in His hands. Jesus wants to be your help right now and give you His gift. Reach out and take the free treasure of His truth. “My yoke is easy and My burden is light” (11:30). Get out of the dark places troubles bring you, and walk in the light of a better day.

Especially in marriage and family troubles, remember Jesus said, “Don’t let your heart be troubled”?  The next lines in the old spiritual go like this:

“Nobody knows the trouble I’ve seen. Nobody knows but Jesus.”