It is very normal for emotional hurts to take place in marriage and family life. Every human being knows that feeling. Forgiveness can help ease the pain.  Thus, it is important to find a way to heal hurts that occur in relationships. Here are 4 Reasons to Heal Emotional Hurts in Marriage and Family.


 1. When an emotional hurt happens in marriage or family, quickly seek to heal the pain. 

If you happen to cause it, then immediately try to heal the hurt. Go to the person with humility and love in your heart. If another member is responsible, then encourage the individual to go make it right. Keep in mind the famous John Lennon’s insight, “One thing you can’t hide – is when you’re crippled inside.” Keeping the pain bottled up only makes it worse. Later it can become a full-on explosion!


2. When an emotional hurt happens in marriage and family, if appropriate, give the wounded a hug. 

The right kind of physical touch, when one feels inner pain, is extremely important. As we all know, sometimes a hug takes away the sting and allows the healing to begin. Author Regina Brett writes, “Touch seems to be as essential as sunshine.”


3. When an emotional hurt happens in marriage and family, forgive. 

While we know forgiving another sometimes seems hard to do, it is essential. We must understand that forgiving is as necessary for you, as for the one you forgive. When we forgive, it sets in motion the cleaning of the conscience and eases the sting of unforgiveness. Scripture teaches that unforgiveness can lead to bitterness whereby many may be defiled.  Who do you think the “many” are in this passage?  I can tell you that it is your family.  Bitterness rising from unforgiveness is an ugly mess that all family members can sense, even when we try to hide it.  It can cause our partner or our children to become “defiled” with a sense of bitterness even if they are not fully aware of the offense.  American model, Yolanda Hadid, had this insight, “I believe forgiveness is the best form of love in any relationship. It takes a strong person to say they’re sorry, and an even stronger person to forgive.”


4. When an emotional hurt happens in marriage and family, remember Jesus. 

If anyone has the right to be unforgiving, it is Christ. Yet, He reveals the power of forgiveness by always forgiving others. The wise will follow Christ’s lead and say, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing” (Luke 23:34). So if you want to heal emotional hurts in marriage and family, forgive!

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