Living together in a home is one of the chief environments for disagreements and arguments to occur. Obviously, conflicts do happen in other places, however, family members are more likely to engage in heated differences in the house than elsewhere. The reason is simple: Close, tight living under the same roof, and regularly relating to one another, soon allows the real “you” to appear. So consider how the following may help you overcome this tendency. Here are 4 Essentials to Reduce Fights in Family.
1. Realize you hardly can keep another family member from arguing, if that’s what they want to do. How easy it is to get sucked into another person’s aggravating negativity. So grasp the importance of this: Don’t be drawn into a family member’s anger, for this is like falling into quicksand. You will get mired up, and usually end up in trouble.
2. Realize you must learn the value of self-control, guarding your attitudes, thoughts, words, and actions. If you are serious about wanting to reduce your involvement in argumentative situations at home, then learn to govern yourself. Heed the insight of author Grenville Kleisler, who said, “By constant self-discipline and self-control you can develop greatness of character.” Keep in mind that your reduction in family fights ultimately is about growing your own inner, positive character.
3. Realize that reducing your participation in family quarrels means you are serious about learning and applying wisdom. Now if you want a little wisdom that can impact your life within family, consider this. “What is the source of quarrels and conflicts among you? Is not the source your pleasures that wage war in your members? You lust and do not have . . . You are envious and cannot obtain; so you fight and quarrel” (James 4:1-2). I would say there’s a lot to learn from these two verses, and if you reflect on them everyday, you will begin to see your life change for good.
4. Realize that the more you depend on Jesus, the less you will allow yourself to be drawn into a family fight. Now here’s is the guarantee: The more of Christ guiding your life, the less you will make war in the home. And the more you will enjoy His peace and model this before fighting family members.
We can all benefit from former President Ronald Reagan’s insight. He said, “Peace is not absence of conflict. It is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means.”