By: Dr. James A. Perkins
Family members can cause feelings of frustration in daily living. They may intentionally or unintentionally annoy you. Rather than being upset with loved ones, learn to overcome feelings of frustration.
Here are 3 Ways To Overcome Feelings Of Frustration With Your Family Members:
1. Change yourself and your reactions to frustrations. Those in the house upset you to the degree you allow them. If a granite slab rested in your home, the whole family could rail, try to irritate, and complain against it. But the big stone never reacts. You aren’t a rock, but can learn from it. Frustrations can be to you like water on a duck’s back. Let them fall to the ground and pay no attention to annoyances and those who provoke you. It is possible to change your reactions.
2. Change the way you see family members. Rather than allowing frustrations to bother you, view them in a different light. Those who make you frustrated do what they do out of ignorance, or pride, or insecurity, or wanting to rule over you. Whatever their motive, try to see what their deeper issues are. As you discover them, use what is uncovered as a motivation. Care for their deeper needs by kinder reactions to them. By seeing family members in a different light, you may find opportunities to help and serve them. Treat those who frustrate you with kindness and favor. Perhaps they may change and become grateful for you and cease their frustrating ways.
3. Rely on strength greater than your own by dependence on Jesus. Christ alive in you gives the capacity to depend on Him as the only explanation for your life. When family members sense more of Jesus loving through you, they may be drawn to the God who lives in you. They might want what you have. Or they may increase their frustrating antics to belittle you. But as their frustrating efforts come, you deflate their hurtful intentions by the power of Christ forgiving them through you.
Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. Philippians 4:6