Doing the right thing often seems hard to come by, especially regarding marriage and family life. In home life, sometimes we do well, and sadly sometimes we don’t. On occasion, those closest to us are the ones we fail the most. So here are 3 Ways In Marriage and Family Life That May Help You Do The Right Thing
Don’t Wait, Correct Your Mistakes NOW
Nothing is more harmful in home life than failing to make matters right quickly when mistakes are made. So whenever relational conflicts come, be smart and immediately go to your family member in order to heal the wounds. A well-known Japanese Athlete, Morihei Ueshiba, said, “Failure is the key to success; each mistake teaches us something.” So do your best and seek to correct hurts in marriage and family relationships as soon as you realize there is a need.
Humble Yourself Before the One You Offended.
While sincerely yielding yourself to another may be uncomfortable, humbling yourself before the one you hurt is essential. This means you take full responsibility for what happened. You don’t say, “I’m sorry, BUT…” Verbally repeating what you did to hurt the person so they know that you know what you did is absolutely crucial. Humility is good for us, especially in our failings. The person you hurt needs to know that you understand what hurt them. And that you realize it was your mistake completely. Heed the wise insight of Cartoonist Charles Schulz, who said, “All you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn’t hurt.”
Quickly make sincere amends.
When you come to your family member, you have to truly mean what you say. Make every effort to understand exactly why what happened hurt them. When you accept that you are the cause of their pain, sincerity comes through. The right move can be found in sharing unconditional grace and love. Though you may not do it perfectly, giving your best efforts with heartfelt concern is important. Trying to put yourself in the other person’s shoes helps you extend real empathy. It’s like you’re saying, “When you hurt, I hurt.” American author, Daniel Goleman shared this truth. “True compassion means not only feeling another’s pain but also being moved to help relieve it.” Doing so reveals grace and love that others need to witness.
Hopefully this helps, when you make a mistake in marriage and family life. Now Don’t Delay. Go and do the right thing, whether you are joyfully received or not. And heed the words of great football Coach Lou Holtz, when he said, “I follow three rules: Do the right thing, do the best you can, and always show people you care.” Oh, yea, and go get some chocolate!