Long ago, the Beatles wrote a song along these lines. “Life is very short and there’s no time for fussing and fighting my friend.” Sad but true, conflicts are common in household relationships. That’s why it’s helpful we learn 3 Steps to Reduce Fussing and Fighting in the Home.


  1. To reduce fussing and fighting in the home, realize each time youpoint your finger at others, three fingers point back at you. It’s a fact that we’re all guilty of looking at the speck in another’s eye, while we neglect the log in our own. Musician Jermain Jackson is right, when he said, “You can’t argue with stupidity. While that’s true, there’s another reality as well. When you fuss and fight you reveal your own ‘stupidity.’” So make a personal vow to stop fussing and fighting. Your loved ones will soon notice and rejoice in your transformation.


  1. To reduce fussing and fighting in the home, be a peacemaker. Make it your mission to be a pacifier and become good at it. As a peacemaker, your objective to is model calmness by using loving words and modeling actions in positive ways. Heed the wisdom of the late president Ronald Regan who wrote, “Peace is not absence of conflict. It’s the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means.”


  1. To reduce fussing and fighting in the home, be consistent in your witness before loved ones. You will do little to bring about positive improvements, if you are inconsistent about living the good life of a peacemaker. Family members must see that you are the real deal and demonstrate a sincere witness in your desire to seek peace. If you really want to help others in ceasing to fuss and fight, live with them in sincere family friendship and fellowship. Allow your witness to be like a magnet of love to them.


The following wise instruction comes from clergywoman Margaret Nadauld. Allow her great insights to show us how we may help remove fussing and fighting between loved ones. She writes, “Standing as a witness in all things means being kind in all things, being the first to say hello, being the first to smile…being helpful, thinking of others feelings, being inclusive.”


And never forget that helping others reduce fussing and fighting happens best by depending on one, awesome reality. When Jesus is free to live His life in you, others sense His presence, even if they pretend they don’t. Now go and release the real Peacemaker – Jesus, Christ, the Lord!