3  REASONS  TO  STOP  DEFENDING  YOURSELF  IN  FAMILY                                                          BY: DR. JAMES A. PERKINS
 
How easy is it to defend ourselves in family life! We have this incredible urge to want to explain why we did what we did. The problem is, defending yourself before family really gets you nowhere. Yet many people do this over and over again.  
 
Here are 3 Reasons To Stop Defending Yourself In Family:
 
1.  Others See Your Defense As An Offense. Whether you are absolutely right doesn’t matter. If other family members see you as guilty, they won’t believe what you say. So you might as well stop thinking your defensiveness gets you anywhere.
 
2. Examine Your Life. When other family members point their finger at you for some mistake, it doesn’t matter if you are right if they claim you are wrong. So see, your defensiveness actually is a lose-lose situation. The best option for you to take is to pause, take a deep breath, and examine yourself. Ask if there is any legitimacy in what you are accused of. Seek to uncover blind spots in your life. Accept that your family’s negative responses about you serve as prompters to move you to look deeper inside and take responsibilities for errors made.  
 
3. Discover Why Not Defending Yourself Has Power. King Solomon was a wise man, and he offered this counsel: “The first to speak in court sounds right—until the cross-examination begins” (Proverbs 18:17 New Living Translation). So learn that holding your tongue actually may empower your case before family members.
 
The solution is, be wise and stop defending yourself in family. And follow the advice of Mark Twain, who said, “It is better to keep your mouth shut and appear stupid than to open it and remove all doubt.”
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