Being hurt by a family member is inevitable, because everyone faces it at one time or another. The question is, how long do we hold on to the painful inner wound? For our own good, the sooner we get over it, the better. Here are 3 Reasons to Quickly Forgive Family Members Who Hurt You.
Reason 1: Like a briar in a finger that needs to come out, so we should release the hurt before it gets too infected. While family members can hold on to a grudge (some for years), those who are wise see the harm of keeping hurt inside. It becomes like a poison that corrupts the inner soul. Think about what Gandhi said, “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
Reason 2: We ought to realize that quick forgiveness is liberating. Yes, times may come when a family member says or does something to us that “breaks the heart,” but we must let it go ASAP. The sooner we sincerely forgive, the sooner we prohibit the emotional infection from spreading. We need to embrace the wisdom of author H. Jackson Brown who said, “Never forget the three powerful resources you always have available to you: love, prayer, and forgiveness.”
Reason 3: God knows we need to forgive, so just do it. It is comforting to realize that Jesus knows everything about the painful hurts we go through. In fact, He allows difficult situations to come our way to teach us how to forgive others like He forgives. Paul the apostle knew this, when he said, “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you” (Colossians 3:13).
You may find great insight about forgiveness presented by author Lewis B. Smedes. He wrote this powerful truth that every family member needs to know and practice. “To forgive is to set the prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”