Though a man works, he has a blind side. It’s easy for any man to convince himself that his excuse for overworking has so much merit. You see, the problem is that a wife doesn’t believe your justifications. In fact, she has real reasons to react. The wrong thing for any man to do is to refuse to listen to his wife. The right thing for a husband to do is to attentively hear his wife and try to see life from her point-of-view. So here are 3 Reasons a Wife Reacts, When Her Husband Elevates His Work Over Marriage and Family
1. The Wife Feels Neglected. Now a husband might try and defend himself, when his wife shares this with him. But what’s the use in doing that? A wise man learns to be sensitive, attentive, and aims to see the world the way his wife sees it. So if she feels neglected, then she is neglected no matter how a husband views it. Embrace Walt Disney’s advice, “A man should never neglect his family for business.”
2. When a Wife Feels Neglected She Feels Rejected. Now if a husband wants to grow up and be a man’s man, then he shouldn’t argue with his wife about how she feels. Since the fall of Adam and Eve, every person born feels rejected, and longs for acceptance. Being the right kind of husband means acting responsibly about overworking. Your assignment should be to serve your wife and help her feel accepted by you. Please listen to Psychologist Nathaniel Branden. He wrote, “The first step toward change is awareness. The second step is acceptance.”
3. When a Wife Feels Neglected and Rejected, She Becomes Bitter. Every husband needs to know a vital truth: If a man fails to help his wife about her feelings of neglect and rejection, then he should know the consequences. In Hebrews 12:15, we find the truth. “See to it that no one comes short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble, and by it many be defiled.” Husband, do you see that failing to meet the needs of your wife unleashes sad and painful repercussions? So be a wise husband and come to the rescue of your wife. Go serve her and make her feel better not bitter. Listen to her concerns about your over working. And husband, see that your chief work is your marriage and family.
Now rise, act like a man, and heed the words of Harry Emerson Fosdick: He said, “Bitterness imprisons life. Love releases it.” Go love your wife.
And to Wives: I encourage every concerned woman to ask your husband to read this blog.